Megan Baceda, Energy Management Mentor

Create lasting change and lead by example without the chaos of a major life overhaul.

When we become aware that there are certain areas of life that have been on autopilot mode, maybe for a very long time, we can freak the f@ck out!

But I want to share a different way of looking at the gift of awareness, and how you can soften the edges that cut to the core.

Here are 3 things you might want to reconsider when you realize, or acknowledge to yourself, that you’re living life on autopilot mode…

1. You have to start from scratch and/or burn everything to the ground in order to “rise from the ashes”…

As a mother, you’re probably quite established in certain areas of life. You have kids. That’s not going to change. Maybe you have a spouse or partner (or ex that you co-parent with). That’s not going to change. You might even have a job or business that you love. That doesn’t have to change.

You get to keep the good parts the same. You don’t have to burn everything down in order to get back into alignment. There doesn’t always have to be a rising from the ashes moment.

2. Meaningful change happens when you push out of your limits and boundaries an/or feel pain or pressure…

Yep, we have to do hard things, have hard conversations and push our limits or boundaries BUT…

Your default state can be settled, soothed and self-assured for the majority of the time. Your default states becomes this way by practicing and utilizing the tools and techniques you learn along the way, that actually soothe and settle your mental, emotional and physical systems.

This is super important because if you make legacy changes from a place of pain, pressure, stress or urgency, that pain, pressure, stress and urgency will weave through and be attached to those changes moving forward. Then you have to go back and do the work, to de-stress and de-stimulate, release and regulate, and isn’t that the reason why you’re here in the first place?

3. You can’t accept your habitual reactions or autopilot mode.

I’m going to offer a really out of the box thought here…

What if you sit with your shit long enough so that you don’t get stuck with it. Let me explain…

These days, the world pushes fast, quick results. We’re made to believe that if we sit too long, we become stagnant. We’re taught you have to nip bad habits in the bud ASAFP or we’ll be stuck with them forever.

Here’s what I’ve learned: If I sit with my Debbie Downer moods, my limiting thoughts and the physical sensations of my discomfort, and I truly, TRULY listen to hear the “thing behind the thing”, not listen to react, fix or judge, I have come to some very deep and profound understandings about why I am stuck on autopilot, why I get stuck in habits and why I get stuck in certain thinking loops.

This is sometimes best done with support and assistance, but, the understanding and awareness needs to come from within you.

That’s how the energy behind what you habitually do, and why you do it, actually shifts, which is the root that you’re looking for, from which all your thoughts, emotions and actions stem from.

There is a lot of information, opinions, advice and support offered out there about how to create meaningful, lasting changes in your life.

As a mother, it’s a completely different ball game, in my opinion.

Your decisions and actions become completely different after having kiddos, mainly because you’re not solely concerned with just yourself. What you do has an impact and effects others now.

But this is also a significant reason why creating legacy change, doing the inner work and leading by example is so important in this respect.

How you deal with and handle change is being observed and absorbed by your kids.

How do you want your kids to learn about change, or moving through uncertainty? This is a golden opportunity, and I’m grateful that we’re walking through this time together 🤍

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